Wednesday, September 16, 2009

Don't Make a Move

Even though it is tempting in all of our daily lives, let alone in early recovery, to focus on fixing, managing and controlling other people's growth process, one of the key tips for recovering yourself is to ...

Let the chips fall where they may when it comes to recovery friends, family and acquaintances.

One of the sure ways of stunting our own growth process is to try and work another person's recovery process for them.

First, it keeps us from identifying our own issues (and can potentially become another addictive habit to avoid our own feelings), discounts the other person's right to their own life path, and, ultimately, causes everyone involved frustration.

Just for today: Instead of doing for another person what he/she can do for him/herself, do that very thing for yourself.

If you can get better, so can others..and since you you weren't very much help to yourself in your attempts to get better without help, it is most likely you aren't best to help someone else.
Stick with the program of action you have already started on and go from there.


  1. Back to Basics. Great place to start.

  2. Definitely it helps to understand powerlessness. I know that I am powerless over people, places, and things.

  3. It does help, but it sure isn't easy!!!!!